Friday, August 5, 2011

Liam at 2.5: A random collection of observations and thoughts

It's bedtime and he's clearly over-wrought. He is trying to wrestle the plastic fold-out picnic blanket onto his rocking horse. He seems to want to ride it, but I gently suggest, "Do you want to cover Misty up with a blanket for the night? It is time for Misty to sleep." And plaintively, he mews, "Yeah." So we cover her up like it is a saddle blanket, and then I ask, "And do you want to pet her and kiss her goodnight?" Another yes, a little kiss, and the crisis is averted. We go toward the stairs and another fit starts brewing, so I sweep him up in my arms and say, "Buddy, I'm going to help you make a good choice to go upstairs, because sometimes when we're tired it is hard to make a good choice." And he puts his head on my shoulder and says, "Yeah."


He remains horse obsessed. He got a beautiful soft rocking horse from GG Metz for Christmas last year, and he would like it and occasionally ride it. Then in the spring he was sick, and we let him watch movies while he wasn't feeling well. And when Terry asked what he wanted to watch, Liam said he wanted a "horsey movie" so Terry found some that were available to stream on Netflix, including Misty, a 1961 drama about a brother and sister who work together to save up money to buy one of the wild ponies from Assateague island. Drama and adventure ensue, along with some good ole fashioned "roll up your sleeves" kid work ethic, and a fair bit of questionable gender morals. But Liam fricking LOVES this movie. When he was sick he watched it almost on a constant loop. He would watch it twice daily still if we let him. And while he watches, he sits on his rocking horse. And any time the ponies run, he rides with them by moving his horse along energetically. As a consequence, he doesn't so much rock back and forth on it, like a regular kid might, as ride the thing like a jockey in the Derby, bouncing up and down in a crouch occasionally shouting "hyah!" or "neigh!"

As a surprise, just after the move we took him to a nearby horse stable that does lessons for kids as young as Liam. He was thrilled when he realized we were at a barn with horses. And he fell madly in love for the tiny pony outside the barn. But when he saw the big horse that was saddled up for him to ride, he was more unsure. Then when she took out the black velvet riding hat and I put it on him, he really flipped out. We eventually got him calmed and he sat on the horse for 30 seconds, but then he flipped out about the hat again and tore the chin strap off, so he had to come down.

We discovered the South Bend zoo, which is really lovely, has a barn area that includes a pony and two horses that kids can ride. Well, they get to sit on the horse while the keeper uses a lead rope and leads them around a big circle twice. Liam watched a series of other kids do it, and I think that helped him feel brave. The first day he wanted to ride the littlest pony, but after that first time, he's gone back several times and wants to ride the big horses. I walked around with him the first time, but he didn't even want to hold my hand. He held onto the horn of the saddle like such a big kid and he kept his seat like a champ.


He still eats just about everything, and at the end-of-summer picnic his new school Directress came up and said she was really amazed, that she's never seen another child with such a diverse palate and so willing to try anything new. That always makes me smile. His new teachers are all so warm and wonderful, we feel really lucky that he has such a great place to transition to.

His new friend from school is a girl named Presley. I believe she is four going on five. She has curly blond hair a bit lighter than Liam's. Evidently they are attached at the hip in school, and she has taken to helping him learn the ropes. We got to meet her when we came for the end-of-summer picnic, and she was a firecracker! Tons of energy, but the teachers report that she has really exerted a lot of self control to tone down so that she can help Liam.

One of the Montessori concepts of self mastery in the classroom, and respect for others, is the idea of walking away from a situation. "Just walk away" is a phrase you might hear in a Montessori class anywhere. Liam now spouts this around the house too, so if Terry or I are trying to get him to do something he doesn't want to do, he'll often say "Walk away daddy. Walk away."

Liam still seems to really miss his friends from Nashville. Sometimes when he walks away or walks out of a room I'll ask him where he's going and he very casually says, "Nashville." Or when we are in the car of in his bed at night, and I'm trying to talk to him about his day at school and have him name his friends, inevitably the first person he names is "Elliot" his friend from Nashville. It just breaks my heart when he says "Ett. Ett. See Ett. Go Ett house. Play." It is the response to every question. I used to be able to ask "Where do you want to go" and know that he would say the zoo. Now when I ask the answer is always "Ett house." I feel terrible because I think the concept of a long move is confusing to him, so he just things Elliot still lives across town and we are somehow just not taking him there.

He has his own blue lunchbox for school. It has his name on it and is decorated with horse stickers. I don't think I could pick out particularly favorite foods. He was a big fan of blueberries for a while when they were in season. He sunned the delicious ruby red bing cherries for days and then once he tried them he was crazy for them. He's been enjoying almonds as a snack. He's also developed a crazy taste for string cheese, which Mama here views as the harbinger of a lifetime of junk food (but I'm trying not to over react).


He has been having a really good time with sushi lately. I make california rolls or shrimp rolls for him sometimes to take to school in his lunch. The other night we went out for sushi at a restaurant. I ordered the seaweed salad, which Liam and I both love. We were sharing from the bowl, with him scooping up heaps of the seaweed on his chopsticks like a shovel. He contemplates me eating from the bowl for a while, and I think he's trying to observe my chopstick technique. But then he quickly shovels all the remaining seaweed salad out of our communal bowl and onto his personal plate. Then he very comically looks into the bowl and says, "Oh no! All gone!"

While we wait for our sushi order to come, I take him over so he can watch the men make the sushi. We look at the different cuts of fish and I name them for him. Then I point and say, "Do you know what that is?" and he promptly answers "Octopus" (only when he says it, it sounds more like aww-po-pus). He looks at it again and then asks, "Sleeping?" and I say, "No sweetie, that isn't a sleeping octopus. That is just his arm. That is octopus meat." And he smiles and says, "Oh," and then immediately, "Eat it!" That's my adventurous little eater.


He has picked up a seemingly endless array of casual off-hand comments. These are things that you never think twice about when they come from an adult, but which are somehow hysterically comical when they come as comments from a kid. If you ask him a question he's likely to respond, "sure." If he tells you something, it often ends with that good ole midwestern "okay" as in "Imma have chocolate milk, 'kay?" And he's too cute when he stands there, asking you to follow by saying "c'mon mom, 'mon" while he opens and closes his little hand waving at you.

He also from time to time picks up on what Terry and I call each other, so he will randomly say, "C'mon Terry! Potty!" or say "Honey, more juice." There is a near 100% chance that if we are in a Target and Terry has walked away from the cart, Liam will start bellowing "TERRY!" at the top of his lungs, cause evidently that is how we find Daddy at Target.


We have really been practicing manners a lot lately, especially please, thank you and you're welcome. He's really taken a liking to saying "you're welcome" lately. The other day in Mass we were all standing going through the service, and the whole congregation says "Thanks be to God" and in the silence that follows, Liam says quite clearly "You're welcome."

Monday, July 25, 2011

Our Little Helper

Liam likes work. He likes helping. I can't say whether this is part of his natural inclination or the influence of his Montessori schooling, but he likes to be a part of any interesting work that's going on.

When his Poppa and Daddy had to take off the banister on the downstairs stairway, he helped "hammer" the nail heads back in...using his red "silly monkey" swirly straw from the zoo. If there's something to be measured with a measuring tape, he wants to hold one end (or both). It wasn't so hard to have him be the little helper when it was me, Daddy, Grandma and Poppa Schultz, because there was an adult around to take him out of the way for dangerous or delicate tasks.

But yesterday Terry and I put the bannister up on the stairs to the second floor, and it was just the three of us. Liam, coming from the sweetest, most curious-george part of his brain, wanted to touch everything. That means wanting to use the stud-finder, wanting to swing the lazer-level around (eek! lazers! blindness!), and of course, it also means that in the delicate measure-and-mark phase of trying to get these stupid brackets aligned and the railing marked off, he wanted to help hold the railing. But being as he's a little guy, his version of holding was more disruptive than helpful, and the fourth or fifth time he accidentally pushed it off its markings or pushed a tool scattering down the floor, we got frustrated.

Its hard, I realize, trying to maintain your cool while you are attempting work that is truly challenging for your skill-set, with a kid who is repeatedly doing things that you, as an adult, find super aggravating, distracting, and sometimes detrimental. So we finally explained that this was daddy's work, and just like at school where you can't touch someone else's work without their permission, he couldn't touch daddy's work right now. So we said he could go down to his play room and color. He said "okay" and off he went.

I stood there trying to hold the 12 foot bannister up frozen in place while Terry marked, and I heard Liam toddle up next to me and he kept saying "shark! shark!" and so I said, "Oh fun, are you pretending to swim in the ocean and see a shark?" because lately he's been interested in pretending we are at the beach, and talking about dolphins. So I casually and slowly turn my head to smile at him and then my smile freezes on my face: he is holding an 8 inch vegetable clever in his hands, by the handle thank God. And I realize what he is really saying is "Sharp! Sharp!"

So I say something like "Holy S*** Terry!" and he leaps into action and gently takes the knife away and gives Liam a talk about not grabbing knives off the countertop.

And because he had four times proven himself incapable of watching without touching, and having him with access to the rest of the house is evidently a piss-poor parenting idea, we asked him to go to his room and play with his horses while we finished the delicate measure and market and drill work.

Later, he helps me hold down the bannister while daddy uses the hand saw and power sander to make the parallel cuts to the bannister. Liam wants to be able to touch and do anything his Daddy does.

That night for bed I offer him the choice of two shirts, so he can pick which one he wants to wear. I happen to pick out his yellow Curious George shirt, and his special "Grandpa's Junior Woodworker" shirt, which his Grandpa Schultz gave to him when they visited. He looks very seriously back and forth, back and forth. He points his index finger and wavers it back and forth, and then resolutely points to the woodworker shirt. "Poppa shirt. I poppa helper."

And my heart melts. And I feel horrible for ever sending him away from any of the work, for not being smart and clever enough to find a way to involve him in the work without it being overly detrimental to the progress of the project. But mostly I just love my little man and his helper spirit.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Liam versus the Sushi

Our little guy is an adventurous eater, and one of his favorite foods is sushi, which sounds like "sue-chi" when he says it. So when we were visiting Grammy and Pop McDonnell, we went out for sushi. He was transfixed by the chopsticks and did his best to learn to use them.


Aww to heck with these chop sticks....





Visiting the Wilmington Children's Museum

While we were in Wilmington, NC visiting Grammy and Pop McDonnell, Pop took us to the Wilmington Children's Museum, which turned out to have a truly excellent array of fun hands-on activities to explore. Doctor Liam loved the room where he could use all of the doctor's equipment to check out whether the bears were healthy. He ran straight for the thermometer and ran over to the giant bear and took his temperature in his ear.




After checking out the bears in the doctor's office, naturally he had to race over and play dentist with the dragons, hop into a kayak for a quick read, and then play trains with Daddy.


But then the wild fun really kicks off when he discovers the outside exploration area...and a real live school bus. For a little boy who loves singing "The Wheels on the Bus" this is akin to walking into your favorite MTV video. He goes ape. He walks up and down the stairs at least 17 times, singing to himself the whole time. He chatters away about the song and eventually makes his way to the driver's seat.






After exhausting himself on the bus, he discover some large "builders"-- dump truck toys. These, naturally, are most excellent for racing around.




After a few warm up laps by himself we hear, "C'mon daddy!" and the races begin. Notice the advanced defensive racing technique, cutting off the opposing driver.

Learning Shoe Work with Daddy

The shoes come off. The shoes go on. The shoes come off. The shoes go on. This is life with a toddler. Liam's Montessori program really emphasizes independence, so we have to work hard to find toddler shoes that fit him well and that he can put on and fasten entirely on his own.


Event date: June 6, 2011

Liam loves Hockey (and Elliott)

One day Liam went over to play at his friend Elliot's house and got to watch the Nashville Predators, our local hockey team. And from that day forward hockey has been among his favorite sports. He especially loves to go over to Elliot's house and play hockey with Elliot, complete with sticks and helmets.


The images are sort of blurry but there's something nice about that too, because when the boys are together, the boys are sort of a blur of activity as well. Though amazingly, they play really well together, and even though rowdy we've yet to have one of them get injured with the stick. Perhaps its because of those awesome helmets...



Liam learns to spit...

There's a funny little thing about kids. Every once in a while something happens that makes you remember that these crazy wonderful little creatures don't know how to do so many of the things we take for granted. Like spit. It seems like little boys should know how to spit from birth. That your primary problem as a parent would be teaching them NOT to spit.

But after Liam turned two he was eligible to move up to big boy toothpaste with actual floride in it, provided he could learn to spit instead of swallow it all. So we had to begin the lessons in spitting. The first couple times he just couldn't get the idea. He would chug down the water, swallow and then open his (empty) mouth wide.

Then the very next morning he tried again and voila! victory!





Event date: May 19, 2011